I took this article from someone’s post.
12 things happy people don’t give a fuck about
I’m so fucking exciting to write this awesome list out for you!
Okay, I don’t want to drag you down with a long ass intro, but it’s gotta be done haha.
My name is Alden Tan, and I’m 28 years old.
I’ve two main passions, writing and Bboying (breakdancing). I’ve been writing at my blog for a couple of years now and been a Bboy for over ten years.
My experience in not giving a fuck
Honestly, I started off really bad.
I spent most of my life caring too much about what others thought about me. I was always afraid of being judged. I feared offending people as I didn’t want to deal with any sorts of trouble.
As a result, I let people walk all over me. I was pissed, a lot.
But it all changed when my dad died when I was 20. He died of ALS, or Lou Gehrig’s Disease. It was a real blow to me and my family. If anything, the biggest takeaway I had was that I shouldn’t be so unhappy all the time and that I should do what I love.
If anyone had a problem with that, well, they can fuck off.
How this little eBook came about
You know, it’s strange. I’m following my dreams. I did the whole, “Quit my job to do what I love” thing a couple of years back.
And man… it has been a real struggle.
I love to write, but I knew I had to learn how to start marketing my blog and shit. That’s when I started becoming unhappy.
I kept wanting to learn how to make money. I learnt all sorts of marketing tactics, enrolled in courses, got mentors, got frigging scammed, but they all didn’t work for me.
Heck, a coach even told me not to be too vulgar in the way I write. What!
As a result? I didn’t make much money. I wrote a lot less. I woke up almost every day feeling stressed and shit. I became very, very unhappy.
I had another free eBook previously, but that felt very, “I wrote it because I was told to write it”. Kind of.
Bullshit. Finally, I said, “Fuck it”. I decided that I was going to go all out and keep doing what I love in my blog, and my business.
Since my dad died, I wanted to write to inspire people. I wanted to change lives and not just give some LOLs or whatever.
This new book is from the heart. It perfectly captures the essence of me and my blog. I went all out for it. I got out of my comfort zone to create this baby.
So, this book is for you.
I write about personal development and motivation, and I do not like to call that my “niche”. I do however, write in a very real, in-your-face style and it contains a lot of profanities.
But seriously, stick with me, and I promise that you can relate to my shit.
That being said, don’t expect some cheesy bullshit from me. There’s no law of attraction, hypnosis, universe tapping, paradigm shifting or world-class whatever.
These are just 12 things happy people don’t give a fuck about.
You ready to stop giving a fuck?
1) They don’t give a fuck about what others think
Yep. Straight up.
Happy people don’t care about what others think about them. They are not afraid of the words and thoughts of others.
Why? Because they’re not real. They’re inaccurate and deeply imperfect.
People who spend their time judging you are insecure losers themselves. When they speak out to bring others down, they’re just trying to validate their own shitty lives.
What you can do to stop giving a fuck about what others say or think
Read that again: The words and thoughts of others.
You need to recognize that they’re merely words and thoughts which can never fully capture the essence of your own life.
So why hold back? Why let a bunch of ignorant comments from ignorant people get you down?
It’s not worth it to keep holding back and not get shit done just because of others. That’s the recipe for regret.
Then you just go ahead and do it. Whatever you want done, do it.
Life is just too short to keep holding back, especially for a dumb reason like what others say or think.
2) They don’t give a fuck about the past or future
You read that right.
Not only do happy don’t give two craps about the past… but also the future itself!
Happy people let go of the past man. They know that it’s all in the past and that they can’t do anything to change it. They let go of that tight grip and look forward.
And yet, they don’t have a bunch of high expectations. Yep. They let go of expectations, which tends to lift you up only to let you down.
What you can do to let go of the past and future
I understand that it can be hard. Shit that has happened to you can be pretty traumatic. Even I had a hard time letting go of my dad’s death and other random events of people pissing me off.
But you need to realize that one day allowing yourself to keep thinking about the bad shit from last time will only, and I mean ONLY drag you down.
It has no use anymore. Learn from it, grow from it, then let it go. Like caring about what others think or say, they aren’t real. The past does not exist anymore.
I let go of the past because I was tired from feeling angry all the time. But it took me a few years to let it go, which was honestly too long. Do yourself a favour and erase that shit forever.
As for the future, well, some form of planning and goal-setting is good, but let go of expectations. Don’t create all these ideas in your head about how you want things to happen.
So how do you let go of the future too?
Do things for the sake of doing!
Live in the present man. Be in the now. Learn how to meditate. Break out of routine.
Appreciate things all around you, like nature. That helps tremendously.
3) They don’t give a fuck about fear
Happy people gain a lot of their happiness from not allowing fear to taking over them.
Look, fear is natural, but it doesn’t mean you should allow it to break you.
Happy people muster up their courage and continuously get shit done. Happy people got balls.
What you can do to eliminate fear in your life
Fake it till you make it. You ought to.
When you fake it, it automatically shows that your body and mind are fully capable of carrying out the act itself.
That being said, what the hell can EVER hold you back then?
And after you get tons of shit done, you’ll be invincible. You can look back and be proud of everything that you’ve done. You don’t have to look back and keep asking, “What if?”.
Also, fear is what keeps you alert. That’s all! It’s what makes sure you don’t jump off the top floor for no apparent reason.
But, if you keep thinking about it, like wondering what happens if you dare to try jumping off, that’s when all the nerves and anxiety set in.
So stop thinking about it, don’t hold back, and just do it.
The feeling of accomplishment is going to make you oh-so-happy.
4) They don’t give a fuck about social media
Social media may be cool and all when it comes to connecting us with one another and quickly catching up with news and stuff.
But the problem isn’t about it taking over our lives, as people like to put it.
The problem comes when we start using social media subconsciously without even realizing it. That’s when you’re being taken over.
It’s very apparent when we start using it when we doing something else more important at the same time.
Ever felt like you got to check your phone when you’re watching a movie or taking a shit? Or worse, you keep checking for updates on Facebook every 30 seconds or so.
Come on, you aren’t going to get new updates so fast!
Happy people drop social media. Some do it completely or cut down at a huge rate. They get happy by being more aware of what’s going on around them and indulging in more meaningful activities.
What you can do to cut down on social media
I wouldn’t expect you to go all out and quit social media permanently, but there’re steps you can take to cut down on it.
First, realize that you may be using it subconsciously. Realize that without social media, you can absolutely find something else better to do.
I don’t personally quit Facebook permanently, but I deleted the mobile app for it. It rocks. I feel a lot more aware of my surroundings when I head out. I get better, more intimate conversations with people too.
Now, go find other meaningful shit to do.
Go read. Books are awesome.
Life is too short to randomly surf social media for an update that doesn’t add any kind of value to your life.
5) They don’t give a fuck about the state of the world
Straight up, the state of the world is a sorry one.
There’s war, rape, disasters and bad shit happening to innocent people.
It’s easy to be affected to the point of depression or as if you shouldn’t start trying to make the world a better place at all.
But… Happy people don’t give a fuck about how shitty this world is.
Now, it’s not they don’t care. They do. They just don’t let it get to them!
Happy people know that feeling unhappy and bitching about everything wouldn’t change anything. They block out the bad stuff and make sure it doesn’t paralyze them.
They try to make things better through baby steps though. As a single person, a happy person can make a huge difference. They show kindness and compassion and give a helping hand. It’s as simple as that.
What you can do to not let the world get to you
One easy hack would be to simply stop reading the news completely.
Seriously, just because the headline is staring right at you doesn’t mean you got to read it.
Just because your friend posted a disturbing, gory video on Facebook doesn’t mean you got to watch it.
Trust me, it’s not worth ruining your day.
Learn to block out the bad stuff from the world. Don’t let it get to you.
Do what you love, let that love inspire others and keep helping others when you can.
The state of the world may not change overnight, but you can change a life easily by showing some love to your fellow man.
6) They don’t give a fuck about age
Ahh… age! There sets apart the young and the old right?
Happy people don’t think that way! They don’t give a fuck about that number that is attached to their life.
Why? Because age is just a number. Period. End of story.
It should never dictate your life. It should never dictate the things you do and ultimately your happiness.
Happy people do whatever it is they want, regardless of their age.
It’s never too late.
What you can do to defy age
Start hanging out with people who willingly do what they want despite their age.
What does this mean? It means hanging out with real friends who’d willingly encourage you to do what you love to.
And when you start doing what you love, you won’t feel old at all because that awesome feeling is all you need. It’s kind of like the same idea as, “Not feel like you’re working a day of your life”.
In my opinion, it’s only logic. If you hang out with a bunch of a friends who keep telling you to act your age, like telling you to get married and shit, you’re going to feel old.
If you have friends who respect each others’ way of life and are always out to have fun together, age can get the fuck out.
Live life and do what you love man. Don’t let age hold you back. Your aging body on the other hand can hold you back. Live it before it’s too late.
7) They don’t give a fuck about pleasing everybody
Why? Because you can’t please everybody in life. Happy people know that.
Somewhere along the way in life, you’re bound to encounter people who’d have a problem with you.
Why? It doesn’t fucking matter.
Happy people recognize when somebody in life doesn’t suit them, and they willingly walk away.
They know that trying to be nice and pleasing everybody just doesn’t work at all.
What you can do to cut out pleasing people
You stop being so nice.
You need to let go of the notion that being nice is the way to go all the time. You need to drop the idea that in some human-nature way you need to be nice to everybody you meet.
That’s not to say you have to be an asshole though.
Recognize the toxic people in your life. If you are unhappy with somebody, walk away. Stop hanging out with them then. Start hanging out with positive people only.
If someone has a problem with you, that’s their problem. Not yours.
And oh, you don’t need that many friends in life. I mean, what’re you trying to be? The prom queen? Stick to your few, close friends and it will be all good.
8) They don’t give a fuck about money
Okay for sure, money is important.
But you know how happy people see it? They know that money at the end of the day, is just paper. They release their attachment from it.
And they also know that down the road, the notion of how money can never buy happiness is very true.
Happy people focus their energy on other things while living with money. They live life to the fullest and start allowing the experiences and lessons create more meaning for them.
They let go of the chase.
What you can do to stop caring about money
A friend once told me this, “Money is important, but the difference is whether you want to chase it or not”.
So if you want to be happy, don’t chase.
Live within your means. Do what you have to do to survive.
Then keep doing what you love, live life to the fullest and recognize the other great things in life that can come to you without having to buy it.
Your bank account wouldn’t matter when you look back in life on your deathbed. Your experience and memories do.
9) They don’t give a fuck about work that much
I’m sure you’re thinking like, “Oh these inspiring people quit their jobs. But I can’t just up and quit!”
Well no one is expecting you to just quit your job and run away from your responsibilities.
That’s just… irresponsible.
But happy people have truly achieved the balance between their happiness and their jobs.
They don’t give a fuck about their job, that means to say, they don’t let their job define them.
They also most certainly don’t let their toxic colleagues, their shitty boss and the awful politics which it all bring to take over their lives.
Happy people go to work, punch in, do their best, ignore all the bullshit and then go home with a nice pay check.
Are you doing the same?
What you can do to not let your job define you
A job is just a job. It’s a means to an end i.e. a stable life. (Stability is overrated by the way).
That’s cool, but at the end of the day, you got to realize that there’re many other things in life that are important too.
What about passion? What about love? What about travelling the world to absorb different cultures? What about being happy and not letting others steal that happiness?
Do what you have to do. Work and survive. But let go of that attachment the job title comes along with. Let go of shitty bosses and annoying colleagues. They belong in the office, not your life.
It doesn’t, and will never define you.
You know what can help define you?
1) The passion you have, in which you have something to love and you become known for that love, thus inspiring others. (I certainly hope by now that you know the idea of passion is very important!).
2) The love and compassion you show for others, because helping others is out of textbook, something a job or school can never teach you.
10) They don’t give a fuck about annoying “friends”
Everybody has friends, but unfortunately, a lot of us have a very skewed definition of what friends mean.
As a result, they hang out with the wrong people in life.
Are you in a situation where you hang out with a group of “friends”, but one or two of them annoy you?
Or heck, you don’t even like them, but you are always civil with them (because it’s the right thing to do) and end up calling them “friends”.
And then… you end up being unhappy with certain friends?
Happy people have friends, but they are true friends who only lift them up higher.
They make no exceptions and no excuses when it comes to friendship.
What you can do to foster real friendships
Hang out with positive people only. And I do mean ONLY. Go all in, and go for 100%.
Make no exceptions.
I personally do not go for any group situations when there is a certain somebody I don’t like.
I’ve skipped many weddings this way. And yes, I don’t give a fuck if people think I’m petty, sensitive or even a pain.
I surround myself with positive people who can inspire me. You should too.
Never make an exception with who you want to be with. Who you constantly surround yourself with can largely make a huge difference in your happiness.
Remember, you’re the average of the five people you hang out with.
So access and analyze your life. Who are you hanging out with? Is someone annoying you?
Is your job getting you down every single day?
It’s time to make a change in your environment.
11) They don’t give a fuck about society’s standards
“You need to be married by 30”
“You need to go to college and get a degree”
“Why are you dating a girl who’s not local?”
These are the things I’ve actually been told in life. Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?
Yep, I’m 28, single but seeing a girl who’s not from around here and unemployed. I do what I love now everyday and it has nothing to do with my bachelors degree.
This is shocking to a lot of my friends, but I don’t give a fuck. I’m happy.
Happy people don’t give a fuck about the rules, standards and whatever society supposedly sets for us.
Happy people jump off the bandwagon, decide they don’t want to be sheep and just do what they love!
What you can do to defy all the rules
Just fuck’em. Fuck the rules and standards.
Find passion. You gotta do what you wanna do in life. Nothing else matters.
You got to recognize deep down that deep down is all that matters. Catch my drift?
What makes you happy? What makes you feel on top of the world? What lights your fire?
Only you know. Only you can answer those questions. Nobody else can.
Life is too short to keep listening to others and end up being unhappy just because you didn’t listen to yourself.
It’s your life after all. You make the damn rules. Do it.
12) They don’t give a fuck about different ideas of happiness
Do you get it now? After reading everything do you get it?
Happiness comes from within!
Happy people just aim to be happy, or rather, happy people are already happy and they leave it as that.
What you can do to be happy
Let me just summarize life for you:
Stop thinking so much. Have some fun. Help others when you can. Be happy.
Are you happy now?
Well I understand if you aren’t.
That’s the point of this book (and my blog too). This is just a simple guide to life, which of course, is complicated as fuck.
I wrote this so that it can act as a little boost if you’re feeling down, sad or like something is missing in your life.
At the end of the day… yo… you got to get out there.
You got to get out of your comfort zone and start living it up! You got to meet and interact with different people. You got to forge your own path with your own unique experiences and create new memories every day.
You got to live a happy life you can truly call your own. That way, when you grow up to be 90 years old and shit, you don’t have to look back in regret and ask, “What if?”
“To see the world, things dangerous to come to, to see behind walls, to draw closer, to find each other and to feel. That is the purpose of life.”
-The Secret Life of Walter Mitty
Then one day, you can tell me about it.
Thank You! Some stuff from me.
I hope you enjoyed this little guide book.
So you need more help? A little something something to enhance your life?
Reach out to me:
I reply all my emails, so don’t hesitate to hit me up!
You can also follow me on my social media accounts:
Facebook/ Twitter / Instagram
Exclusive subscribers promo:
My new book is out! Check it out!
It’s now up on Amazon and only going at $2.99! Woo!
And here are my other book! These are in PDF format so you can’t find them on Amazon.
To say thank you, I’d like to offer you all my books at a 90% discount rate! That’s just $10 for all three, and yes, you can still get a refund after, no questions asked.
Don’t let this offer run away! Get it before it’s too late!
Just thought I laid out my best articles for you! Depending on where you’re now in your life, each of them can help.
How to dominate post breakup trauma- Can’t get over your ex? This is for you. Because life is too short to keep feeling sad over your ex.
How to find relationships in the right places so you don’t end up with bitches and douchebags- Stop forming toxic relationships with the wrong people!
How to talk to people without feeling awkward- Because you need to interact with people in life, whether you like it or not. This guide will help make sure you don’t mess up socializing!
How picking up girls can help you achieve your dreams- For the guys out there. A little something to think about!
19 pictures which scream no excuses- The ultimate post that’s going to help you get off your ass and do something! No excuses! Check this out now.
A favour please…
Could you do me a favour?
If you enjoyed 12 Things Happy People Don’t Give a Fuck About, help me share it!
All you got to do is to share this link: http://www.alden-tan.com/happy-people
Share it on Facebook, Twitter or whatever!
I’d be so grateful! I want to help as many people as I can and yep, also to promote my blog and get some traffic.